You may have heard that guys want
their women to be more vocal and louder in bed, but it’s not just
because he wants you reenacting his favorite porn scene (although he’d
probably be okay with that too). Men complain that their partners aren’t
speaking up and that they’re unsure if they’re pleasuring you, Berman
says.
The solution is easy: Say something! “Many men find it erotically charging when the woman is very affirming during sex,” McCarthy says. “He enjoys hearing things like, ‘That really feels good’ or ‘I’m really turned on’ or moans.” It doesn’t hurt that doing so will mean more enjoyable sex for you since men assume silence means you’re happy.
And when you’re not happy, don’t stay mum. A lot of guys tell Dow that they want to know what they're doing wrong—but then they’re pretty upset when they find out they're not the best lover in some ways. Criticism will make a man defensive, Dow says, so think positively. He recommends trying something such as, “I love it when you X and Y to me. It’d make me so hot if you’d Z.” (Fill in the variables, of course.)
The solution is easy: Say something! “Many men find it erotically charging when the woman is very affirming during sex,” McCarthy says. “He enjoys hearing things like, ‘That really feels good’ or ‘I’m really turned on’ or moans.” It doesn’t hurt that doing so will mean more enjoyable sex for you since men assume silence means you’re happy.
And when you’re not happy, don’t stay mum. A lot of guys tell Dow that they want to know what they're doing wrong—but then they’re pretty upset when they find out they're not the best lover in some ways. Criticism will make a man defensive, Dow says, so think positively. He recommends trying something such as, “I love it when you X and Y to me. It’d make me so hot if you’d Z.” (Fill in the variables, of course.)
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