Going to the
gynecologist can be nerve-racking. They're asking you all these
questions about your sexual history and your vagina is laid as bare as
the new-fallen snow. It's stressful AF, and you might be wondering
what's going through the head of the doctor whose face is so very close
to your labia. To help lessen that stress, Cosmopolitan.com spoke with ,
a gynecologist in Westchester County and the assistant clinical
professor at Mt. Sinai School of Medicine, to find out the things your
gyno is definitely not judging you for.
1. Your sexual orientation. Dr. Dweck
says doctors don't care if you're gay or straight or questioning and if
anything, they only want to know so they can give you the proper
information. Dr. Dweck says, "Why waste our precious and limited time in
the office discussing pregnancy prevention and contraception if that is
irrelevant or unimportant to you?"
2. Your number of sexual partners. Dr. Dweck
says that she doesn't care how many people you've slept with and she
only asks her patients this question so she can know their chances of
contracting an STI. Dr. Dweck explains: "There are medical risks to
multiple partners, such as an increased chance of STIs. Knowing how many
partners you've had may actually guide my treatment plan in a different
direction."
3. Whether you have had an abortion or not. It
could be stressful to hear a doctor ask you whether you've had an
abortion, but rest assured they're not judging you for it; they just
want to know if it impacts your sexual or emotional health. Dr. Dweck
says: "We're really just focusing on the medical and surgical
implications here. For example, sometimes there are subsequent pregnancy
risks or other emotional effects. It's just good information for us to
have."
4. Whether you use a menstrual cup, tampon, or pad. Dr. Dweck
says she doesn't care what you use, but it's helpful for her to know
because if you're using tampons, you run the risk of getting toxic
shock. If you're using a pad though, that won't be a problem.
5. How much pubic hair you have. Dr. Dweck says she doesn't care if you have a big bush or if you're bald. It changes literally nothing.
6. Whether or not you shaved your legs or got a pedicure prior to your visit. It
can be super stressful to feel like you need to look like a hairless,
pedicured doll when you go to the doctor (seriously it is so messed up
that some of us are still conditioned to think like this! it's the
freaking doctor!). Rest assured though, Dr. Dweck says, "Frankly, I
don't even notice if you have or haven't shaved or gotten a pedicure."
So go to your appointment and just be honest. They're there to help you,
not judge you.
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